The Winning Family
“Uniquely inspiring and non-guilt provoking.” —Mothering Magazine
“A wealth of forthright information.” —Parenting Magazine
"An inspiring book that can improve the quality of family life." —Library Journal
Our families can fill us with joy or bother us with constant, even unconscious, power struggles throughout our lives. This new, revised edition of The Winning Family shows a new generation of parents exactly how to strengthen children with positivity and empathy by building instead of tearing down, and responding instead of reacting. Step by step, this beloved book teaches crucial parenting techniques that break intergenerational blame/shame/enabling patterns and help children develop skills to become confident, capable adults with self-worth and healthy self-concepts.
Dr. Louise Hart and Kristen Caven, a mother-and-daughter writing team, have packed The Winning Family with the latest information, helpful tips, and insightful personal stories from four generations. They present powerful, practical tools in a simple and easy-to-use way. As you abandon unhealthy, ineffective coping mechanisms, you will build
- Deep inner confidence and a positive, realistic sense of self
- The ability to create healthy boundaries and structure
- Effective ways to instill self-discipline and internal motivation
- Skills for honest, kind communication to resolve and prevent conflict
- Positive attitudes that turn obstacles into opportunities for growth
- Emotional intelligence to better understand and process feelings, and
- The resilience to handle change and solve problems.
If you have young children, teenagers, adult children, special needs children, or even no children (and you want to gain insight into your own childhood), or if you are a teacher, a caregiver, or an adult who works with kids, this book is for you. In fact, this book helps anyone who's ever been in a family—because the same tools that build self-esteem in the first place can also be used to repair damaged self-esteem later on.
The Winning Family is a must-have guide for creating a safe, supportive, empowering family where everyone wins-and a better world begins.
"Never has a book been so meaningful and timely! It has all the essentials: theory, practicality, application, and passion for kids. Self-esteem must start with the family. The Winning Family needs to be in every home." —Dr. Michele Borba, Thrivers
"The Winning Family is a book you will return to again and again for Hart's reassuring words, lighthearted confidence in the love of parents for their children, and down-to-earth ideas about making the parenting journey a path to self-discovery." —Julianne Idelman, Hand in Hand Parenting
"I like this book!" —Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, pediatrician and author, Touchpoints
"This book is a must for parents who want to raise children with understanding, nurturing, and healing, instead of blame, shame and punishment." —Patricia Palmer Ed.D., author of Liking Myself; The Mouse, the Monster, and Me; and Teen Esteem
"At last there is a book that goes beyond parenting to focusing on the personal development of parents along with the development of their children." —Jeanne Gibbs, author of Tribes
"Packed with helpful insights and suggestions. I highly recommend it!" —Jean Illsley Clarke, author of Self-Esteem: A Family Affair
"Must reading for all care givers of children. I read it cover to cover in one day." —Sandra Gellert, National Association for Family Day Care
Kristen Caven is a radiant writer, speaker, performer and producer known most widely for her work uplifting the teachings of psychologist Dr. Louise Hart, which have been published in six languages. The Winning Family, On the Wings of Self-Esteem, and The Bullying Antidote have all been widely praised by experts.
With individual and community well-being always at the forefront, Caven provides thoughtful guidance and practical solutions in times of need, and her out-of-the-box creative expressions and leadership are fueled by creativity, positivity, and playful possibility. Her imaginative blogs, books, cartoons, plays and songs, short stories and personal narratives provide unique perspectives, unusual knowledge, and unexpected, moving, women-centric literary adventures; even her prescriptive writing bursts with innovation and amusement. Her cartoon collections, Perfectly Revolting: My Glamorous Cartooning Career and The Reason She Left are unique expressions of a creative life.
Her musical, The Souls of Her Feet, was read off-off Broadway, and her play, The Dirndl Diasporta, headlined the first online Oktoberfest in 2020. She’s contributed to numerous anthologies and invented new literary and musical performance forms. She blogs for ADDitude Magazine and leads a branch of the California Writers Club, where she is the current Writer-in-Residence at Joaquin Miller Park. She has won honors and awards for her cartooning, poetry, and essays. In Oakland, California, where she lives with her husband, megablogger Dave Caven, Kristen collects jell-o molds, plants trees, and leads dance playshops.